RISK OF DEATH DOUBLES AFTER A DIVORCE
Death from cardiovascular disease is higher in divorcees than in married couples. There are 30 million divorcees in the United States alone and most of them are unaware that their risk of having a stroke or heart attack can double as a result of their divorce. Several published studies confirm the higher risk of cardiovascular disease in divorcees. These are some published studies you might be interested in researching further below. The following video links show why divorce is the #1 SILENT KILLER in America today:
Divorce Doubles Stroke Risk - http://youtu.be/35py6-X_2qk &
Divorce Doubles Heart Attack Risk - http://youtu.be/798csRbK1jA
Research Evidence From Different Countries-
1. UNITED KINGDOM - The British Regional Heart Study: 7,735 men aged 40-59 selected between 1978 and 1980 randomly from general medical practices in 24 towns in England, Wales and Scotland and followed for 11.5 years. Divorced men had a cardiovascular disease mortality 1.9 times and non-cardiovascular mortality 4 times that of married men. Am J Epidemiol. 1995 Oct 15;142(8): 834-42
2. USA - The National Longitudinal Mortality Study: 530,000+ men and women aged 25 and older recruited between 1979 and 1985 and followed through 1989. Of these, a cohort of 281,460 men and women aged 45 and older were then studied further. Suicide risk in this cohort was found to double in divorced men. J Epidemiol Community Health 2000 Apr;54(4):254-61
3. JAPAN - The Japanese Collaborative Cohort Study (JACC): Showed that after adjusting for age, divorce doubled the risk of coronary heart disease. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1871578/#__ffn_sectitle.
4. SWEDEN - Death rate was double (20%) for divorced men compared with (9%) for married men. Am. J Epidemiol 1989; 129:54-64
5. FRANCE-JAPAN-HUNGARY -Death rates were respectively 1.85, 1.55 and 1.67 times higher for divorced men than for married men in France, Japan and Hungary according to a study done by Dr. Hu and Dr. Noreen Goldman. Demography. 1990. May 27;(2):233-50
WHAT ARE DOCTORS DOING TO HELP LOWER THE RISK OF HEART ATTACKS IN THEIR PATIENTS AFTER A DIVORCE?
Divorce doubles the risk of a heart attack. There is nothing in the current medical literature that addresses the risk of a divorced person having a heart attack or what to do to modify that risk. I gave some recommendations in How Divorce Kills and I am currently working on another book that will provide recommendations on the medical management of the divorced patient. To understand the gravity of the deficiency in addressing this higher risk of heart disease in divorcees, I have used the free online 10-year HEART ATTACK RISK CALCULATOR provided by the National Institute of Health. You can go to http://cvdrisk.nhlbi.nih.gov to plug in your own numbers such as age, cholesterol level, etc, to find out more about your own risk.
The following are examples based on the NIH 10-year risk calculator to help you see the overpowering influence of divorce on heart disease more clearly:
Using the free NIH risk calculator
Patient Bob B,
A 45 year-old smoker with hypercholesterolemia, blood pressure 120/80, a total Cholesterol 200 and HDL 30 has a
10-year risk of heart attack of 13%
Patient Brad J,
A 45-year old non-smoker with hypercholesterolemia, blood pressure 120/80 a total Cholesterol 200 and HDL 30 has a
10-year risk of a heart attack of 4%
Patient Bill B,
A 45-year old smoker with high cholesterol and hypertension on antihypertensives, a blood pressure 150/85, total Cholesterol 200 and HDL 30 has a
10-year risk of a heart attack is 21%. Unbelievable!
Either this NIH risk calculator is wrong or divorce needs to be reckoned with as a greater risk factor.
Perhaps it's not too hard to believe that the combined heart attack risk due to smoking, hypertension and high cholesterol is 21%. But what happens when you calculate the risk of a heart attack due to the risk factor called divorce? Keep in mind that most physicians don't even consider divorce to be a risk factor? As physicians, we are ignoring a major risk factor and turning a blind eye at divorce for unclear reasons. To get an idea of how terrible this omission in caring for divorced patients is, let's look at
Patient Black J,
A 45-year old recently divorced non-smoker with no medical problems, no high cholesterol or hypertension Based on the British Regional Heart Study, Black J has an 11.5 year risk of heart attack and death from cardiovascular disease of 100%.(Another way of saying doubled risk). Some studies may show that the risk is higher, particularly in the first two years following the divorce.
*Divorce is not just a social epidemic, but a risk factor for stroke and a greater indicator of cardiovascular risk and death than hypertension, smoking and high cholesterol combined. (Based on the NIH scale)
*Divorce is a greater risk for stroke than the traditional and feared risk factors such as atrial fibrillation and atherosclerosis.
According to the CDC, stroke is one of the four leading causes of death, claiming nearly 130,000 lives every year. Without addressing the divorce factor, we may be barking up the wrong tree in our attempts to lower the annual stroke risk and incidence. To fully appreciate the impact of divorce as a major risk factor for stroke, I will use the CHADS2 scoring system. In patients with atrial fibrillation(Afib) an abnormal and irregular beating of the heart, their annual risk for a stroke if they are not placed on anticoagulation (blood thinners) is scored based on whether or not they have one or more risk factors: Congestive Heart Failure, Hypertension, Age 75 years or more, Diabetes, Prior Stroke or Ministroke. In Afib patients with none of these risk factors, the annual risk for stroke is 1.9% and the risk rises to 18% in those with all five risk factors. Remember the risk of stroke in a divorced patient is pretty much doubled, that is 200%. This means a divorced person has a risk for stroke that is almost twelve times that of a 75 year old man with congestive heart failure, Hypertension, Diabetes and a prior stroke or ministroke regardless of age.
If I had stayed in the horrible first marriage, do you think I will still be alive and well today, 21 years later?
The risk conferred on a patient from smoking, hypertension and high cholesterol combined is less than that resulting from divorce alone. In the near future, ignoring this impact of divorce on cardiovascular health is likely to be construed as negligence not just for cardiologists but also for primary care physicians. In 2009, a judge unexpectedly awarded a plaintiff $3 million against a cardiologist in Gwinett, Georgia for the death of a stressed 31-year old policeman who died during a three-some with someone other than his wife. In my opinion, this young man with sudden cardiac death shows how important divorce, marital stress and occupational stress can combine to more than double the risk of sudden cardiac death. I also believe physicians ought to be aware of the cardiovascular risks posed by a divorce and take steps to modify that risk in order to prevent their patients from dying and avoiding any medico-legal complications. I have been teaching about the pathophysiologic mechanisms underlying this risk and have a thoroughly researched and well-written book on the subject that was reviewed by excellent clinicians and a practicing interventional cardiologist. This book HOW DIVORCE KILLS will be very helpful for practicing physicians : https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/138190
Doctors, particularly primary care physicians and cardiologists must recognize that divorced patients are at greater risk for a heart attack or stroke than their patients who smoke, have high blood pressure or those with high cholesterol. They must equally recognize that cardiovascular disease risk in divorcees is often initiated long before the divorce takes place and the need to start disease modifying strategies for their patients long before the divorce, while still married and experiencing conflicts and hostile marital interactions.
In 1999, Dr. Timothy Smith and Dr. Linda Gallo published an article in Psychosomatic Medicine showing that hostile marital interactions raised blood pressure. According to another article published by Dr. Barefoot and colleagues in 1995 in the American Journal of Epidemiology, hostility, the predominant attitude in marital conflicts, increased the likelihood of early death and heart attacks by 50%. Anger, another raw emotion that accompanies marital conflict and divorce proceedings, was shown to be a significant trigger for heart attacks. In Dr. Mittelman's study of 1623 patients published in Circulation, a cardiology journal in 1995, an anger episode within two hours doubled the risk for a heart attack.
“In a bad marriage, if the traumatic signals are repeated over and over till the individual’s normal physiological and psychological limits are overwhelmed, a nervous breakdown can occur. In the absence of a nervous breakdown however, persistent unbearable stress in a bad marriage can trigger alterations in the normal physiologic mechanisms in the body. Such alterations could manifest as a rise in blood pressure or resting heart rate, high cholesterol, diabetes or chest pain or an increase in biological age. ”Excerpt From: Caxton Opere, MD. “How Divorce Kills, One Step at a Time.” https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/138190
Science is not just about experimentation and data collection but about accurate interpretation of the data. When the data available on vital statistics, life, deaths, marriages from different countries around the world were pooled together by Dr. Hu and Dr. Goldman, it was obvious that divorced people were twice more likely to die.
While divorced individuals are twice more likely to have a heart attack, stroke and commit suicide, a bad marriage can be just as terrible. I was in a marriage that lasted 14 months and I started having chest pain nine months into the marriage, just after I turned 30, over twenty years ago. More details about that pathetic marriage are in my first book but I'll share a few things with you here in the form of principles.
#1. You never know who or what you're marrying beyond what the other person is willing to reveal about themselves before the marriage. Lying and intentionally deceiving someone so they are unaware they are going to regret marrying you will still lead to the shameful collapse or painful deterioration of the marriage. In my own case, my regret was minutes after the marriage, and the lady made it clear that she intended to trap me because I didn't believe in divorce. If you had to lie to someone in order to trap them into a marriage, you don't have a marriage because your marriage is based on fraud.
#2.You cannot pretend to go along with the other person's expectations and then after marriage say " I only said that sounds good, I didn't say I agreed". This is what happened to me in my first marriage. It was so ugly, I started having chest pains without panic attacks.
#3. If you've come into the relationship to take and not give of yourself, your marriage will eventually turn ugly.
#4. If you don't give what you need to give your mate, you all both suffer eventually. It may e them at first but you will eventually shrivel to the level of deprivation you sink your spouse to.
#5. It is so much easier to love than to hate or be selfish. Lovers give. If you refuse to love and support your spouse because of a past mistake or sin, you will both suffer eventually. I suggest you read my book on the subject How Divorce Kills https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/138190
#6. Never deprive your husband or wife of what they need to be healthy and fully functional when it is in your power to provide it. You will always be rewarded even if you had to sacrifice to give it. If you deprive your spouse of sex, you will lose. Guaranteed. Check out the book God's Success Program at
#7. Male billionaires are all sexually satisfied men. Sex causes a lot of problems in marriages. Sometimes or perhaps most times, it's because the women feel the man is not rich enough or deserving of them. Such a poverty and selfish mindset will however only guarantee snail-paced progress, lack or absent motivation in the man and diminished self-confidence, increased risk for infidelity, erectile dysfunction, hostility and violent disruptive behavior. Give yourselves to each other cheerfully, selflessly and you'll be amazed at the heights you can both reach together. To learn more about how to inspire your mate and build a truly happy marriage when you're ready, just click
DOES DIVORCE AFFECT A CHILD's HEALTH TOO?
Yes. Until Dr. Judith Wallerstein started publishing her findings on how divorce affects children emotionally in the Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, parents and even therapists simply presumed, and falsely so, that divorce did not affect children emotionally. That thinking position or paradigm has changed since she published her findings on children of divorce. We now know that a child of divorce is not only emotionally stunted, they may suffer from underachievement, depression and several emotional disorders beyond my expertise. What most don't know is that the child, just like an adult, can develop medical complications following a divorce. There are several medical complications that an innocent child may suffer following their parent's divorce. Here is one of the over 150 journal articles I referenced in my book How Divorce Kills:
“In another study reported in the November 2005 issue of Diabetes Care by Drs. Sepa, Frodi and Ludvigsson, some more disturbing findings were reported. They studied 5986 children and their families and showed that if the mother had experienced divorce, her child’s risk of developing autoimmune type I diabetes, the worst type of diabetes, was increased by more than 3.5 times by the time the child was two and–a–half years old.” Excerpt from How Divorce Kills.
It should be clear that divorce causes more pain and increases the risk of death, disease and disability, what I call the 3D's of divorce. Consider the number of people now divorced, emotionally and physically disenfranchised, and therefore at risk of the three D's. This number is astonishing and in reality includes children, as children have an increased risk of dying within the first year of life if the mother was experiencing marital or relationship stress shortly before or during pregnancy. Here is a quote from my book on an article published by Professors Vatten and Skjaerven:
“Their research findings, published in the November 15, 2003 issue of the British Medical Journal showed some surprising if not shocking insights into what could happen to a child born to a woman who changed sexual partners. They showed that if a woman changes partners between her first and second birth, through remarriage or otherwise, the new child has more than twice the chance of being born premature and almost twice the chance of dying within the first year of life. Both these risks were lower for the children of women who had the same partner for both births.” Excerpt from How Divorce Kills.
There has never been a more important time to address divorce as a public health problem than now. It is however unfortunate that some primary care doctors and cardiologists still see divorce as an emotional problem of incompetent couples instead of what it really is, a risk factor that outweighs all the other traditional risk factors for stroke and heart attack. The entire populace needs to be educated about the risk posed by a single divorce and conflict-ridden or bad marriages. To do so, we must look at divorce from a non-traditional angle, that is, think outside the box. We must accept that a divorce can kill anyone. The beloved late actor Robin Williams probably suffered as a result of his divorces.
Secondly, we must realize that we can do something about the divorce epidemic by being proactive not retroactive. What do I mean by proactive? I mean thinking ahead, acting in a constructive manner that prevents for the most part, our likelihood of experiencing divorce in the first place. Thirdly, we must educate our leaders in the community about the real and not the imagined causes of divorce. Church leaders are particularly guilty of not knowing the causes of divorce. Many of those I interviewed underestimate their role in limiting the impact of a cause of divorce on their parishioners. If you doubt this, then ask any pastor the differences between a cause of divorce, a precipitant of divorce and a reason for divorce. I will give a free copy of my book to anyone who can make such a distinction without having read any of books.
DIVORCE INCREASES BREAST CANCER RISK
It seems everyone went to bed after Felicia Roberts published her 1996 article in the reputable journal Cancer stating that breast cancer is not connected to stress. She interviewed 258 breast cancer patients and 614 randomly selected population-based controls with obvious flaws in design methodology. I think it's always better to warn someone about possible danger than to give them a false sense of security. Stress particularly stressful life events(SLE), may quadruple the risk of relapse of breast cancer. There is ample evidence for the latter. The lackadaisical attitude towards accepting the connection between SLE and breast cancer forces me to be a bit more academic in providing references. Kocic and colleagues provided evidence from their article from 106 patients (Kocic B, Jankovic S, Petrovic B, Tiododrovic B. Srp Arh Celok Lek. 1996 Jul-Aug; 124(7-8):175-8) showing that psychological stressors more than doubled the risk for breast cancer. In another article by Dr. Chen and colleagues of 119 women in King's College, London in the December 9, 1995 issue of the British Medical Journal, SLE was shown to triple the risk for breast cancer. After adjusting for menopause, age and other confounders, the risk of breast cancer rose to 11.6 times! Again, from the Finnish Cohort Study of 10,808 women published by Dr Lillberg and colleagues in a 2003 issue of the American Journal of Epidemiology, divorce and separation, markers of marital stress were shown to double the risk of breast cancer. The risk of breast cancer increases with marital stress and with major SLE.
WHO GETS ILL AFTER DIVORCE?
There are biological, psychological, physiological and pathological determinants of stress-induced physical illness. The type of stress independent is also an important determinant of who gets sick. So no matter how strong you are, the right type of stress may destroy your biologic, psychological and phsyiological defenses against physical illnes. You should not place yourself in situations that attack these natural defenses. When I realized I was gradually crumbling, I left. Not everyone develops a diagnosable clinical disorder as a result of a stressful life event, toxic relationship or divorce. Even though I experienced chest pains 21 years ago, I never developed, thank God, any physical illness. Had I stayed, I'm almost sure from the research and clinical evidence available that I would have aged so fast, deteriorated rapidly and perhaps died, years ago. God kept me alive and gave me physical health but the only way to have remained healthy was to leave a horrible marriage. Against my own religious beliefs, I had to own the decision to leave the marriage. This part of my own experience is meant to help you have a better understanding of who really gets ill as a result of a bad marriage, toxic relationships or a divorce. If you stay when you need to leave, you may become a living corpse riddled with disease and plagued by disability. You may also pay the ultimate price with your life. God may hate divorce, but He didn't create you so you could bea sacrificial lamb in your marriage.
A bad marriage is the ultimate health parasite. You can't run, hide or check into a hotel. It hunts and haunts you wherever you go, particularly when you know you have what it takes to be happy and are doing all that you should. Your needs may go unmet or be constantly challenged by someone who is incompetent in meeting your realistic needs and expectations. Things usually get worse if one spouse, usually the more outspoken one, gathers the support of a bunch of ignorant people, particularly family and friends, to deride the less talkative or quieter spouse. This is quite common amongst illiterate African men with college degrees and some religious fanatics. Victims of such marriages could suffer any type of physical ailments ranging from panic attacks, heart attacks, cancer and stroke to autoimmune disorders regardless of their age.
There are several factors determining who gets sick from marital discord or divorce. Not every one will have symptoms and not everyone will suffer physical illness. The overall risk for death, disease and disability must however be presumed to double whenever relationships become toxic or a divorce occurs. Differences between any two individuals should not be used as an excuse to nullify the real impact of divorce or bad marriages on the risk of death, disease and disability, the 3D's of divorce. So just because Jackie has had four divorces and is fine doesn't mean you should recommend a divorce for her junior sister, Joan. Some experts believe only about 20 to 30 percent of all breast cancer cases can be attributed to the known traditional risk factors. The other 70-80 percent of breast cancers are due to unknowns. Hope you're beginning to get a glimpse into what the unknowns might be. The things we do or fail to do and the things we allow others to do to us play a greater role than we think.
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